Joey Anthony Scalise

I can't believe that I have survived 14 years without you here with me, it's been very surreal.... my dreams keep you close. And so,e times I even feel your spirit near me, I know it's you because of the thoughts that come to mind when I have the feeling. You are so forever missed, the things you would be doing now in life as an adult, my mind wanders, where would you be, what would you be doing.... I love you my son, from here to eternity. My heart will stay broken until we meet again. 
with all. My love.  

Heard that song and instantly thought of you. I miss you now more than ever. 

I've just spent a great deal of time roaming through your life, Joey.  We hadn't met, yet I feel as if I have known you just as I knew friends of my son, throughout his life. I feel such pain reading your wonderful mother's words, because I "FEEL" them. Tears run down my face with all this pain that I am so accutely aware of.  I so hope that you visit and leave your signs for your mother. I know how IMPORTANT these little messages can be. Rest in peace, Joey. Many are looking out for your mother as she is looking out for so many other bereaved mothers. I'm quite lucky, she is my friend. 

Joey,
Sooooo.....I just recently found out that you thought that I was "Badass". So freakin cool to know. I always thought that you just thought of me as just another parent of a friend.

I don't know why and I don't question why ..... but YOU are on my mind DAILY. (ssh don't tell Jon -- lmao) I see your face every day.....something about your eyes ----

I dont' know why it is you visit me everyday but don't stop. I won't question why. Maybe I will find out one day.

Until then Joey....please continue to visit me. For whatever reason it helps me.

I love you and NO I will NOT do a brakestand!!! Even though you taught me how. I can still hear you telling me..."Ok now give it more gas--more gas-- " then when the tires smoked......

Love you kiddo....cause I'm "BAD ASS" in Joey's book!!!

Ginny

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jLA06UmFg0s

 

Love this song.....

This picture was taken two days before his accident, That is his cousin Alexandra, he was so happy that day, it was our annual family reunion, this was the first and last one he got to go to, he met a lot of his relatives.... he is so missed and loved.

I can still see your Handsome face with that huge smile, I miss you so much. I have so many pictures of you around the house, I just want to see you everywhere I go. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH JOEY and I pray to god that you know it. My memories of you are so many, "Hey Woman!" LOL I remember that one, I can still hear you yelling it, or "Hey Mom, whats for dinner?" and this one Im sure you dont want everyone to know but to bad... "Mom, can you tuck me in?" My 18 year old baby. I remember making you grilled cheese sandwhiches, that and the funnel cakes were your and Brownes favorites... making you a hearty breakfast in the morning so you could go to school with a full stomache, only to finish cleaning up and finding you back in bed, or asleep standing up in the shower...I remember you telling me that when you got older you were going to marry me..LOL so sweet. I remember making you hot chocolate or apple cider in the winter before bed. I  think of when you were sick in the beggining of June and crawling into my bed because you had a fever, and Trina and Becca coming over and you were all embarassed, it was cute, you still needed your mama, I remember you always telling me you were never going to leave home.... That always made me feel good, it made me feel that you loved it here, why wouldnt you, you had it made! It kills me every second of everyday to know that you arent here... I love you so much Joseph Anthony Scalise, You were my life, I fought to bring you into this world.... You were and always will be my Baby boy! I look for a signs from you all the time. Until we meet again, I will hold you in my heart until I can hold you in my arms once again. I love you......

I will never forget the last day and 2 day's before the accident...Joey was so happy..he had the biggest smile on his face (as usual) and was walking around the family re-union saying " Hi I am Joe Scalise"...

He had just got done working on my car a few weeks before that so when he saw me he came walking up to me and said with such pride "Auntie Bella how's urrrr car runnin" and when I told him it ran better now than the day I bought it, he beemed with pride...

He was so proud that he was a good mechanic, that's all he really wanted to do with his life...He had just gotten the form's to fill out so he could get into a school...

He was so sure that's what he wanted to do that he made the effort , with his cousin Franke Kamlan, to get his native american card w/ his photo because they would pay for him to go to the school...

I think when he found that out he really pushed forward to go for it!

The Monday that he passed I happened to pass by to see my sister Tami and Jojo came up to the car and was talking to me...

We some how got on the subject of his strength and he told me (while patting his hand in the center of his chest) " Auntie I have this strength in me and I dont know where it come's from"...I am hoping that in his passing that strength he told me about, that is so vividly etched in my mind, has helped him in his process of passing, and I feel sometime's that he is shareing that strength with all of us, as everytime I think of him its with that crooked little grin and those beautiful sparkeling eye's saying "auntie B you too have the strength"....

God know's we all have needed it....

What a blessing it was, although for only a short while, that we got to have you Joey in our family...

There is not a moment of the day you are not thought of....

I know you must be here to help your "mom" and Shelly.....What a great kid you are my nephew...I love you with all my heart <3<3<3

I just want to Thank everyone for sharing your stories of your Children, I have just lost my beautiful 18 year old Son Joey on June 22 2009, It has been the most painful thing I have ever gone through, His beautiful face and his precious memories never leave my mind, not for one second of one minuet of one hour, awake or asleep.... I re live the day he passed and the whole week leading up to his funeral on a daily basis... It is so hard to cope. I love my Son with all of my being and miss him tremendously, I could never explain this pain to anyone else, they just dont understand, but I know that you do... It is so unfortunate that we have to be here, but I am thankful that I found you, I couldnt make it through the day without your encouraging words and your loving thoughts about your own Children. I am praying that I have strength and that I dont die from a broken heart, I need to be here for my Daughter who has lost her baby Brother and her best friend. Will the tears and deep sorrow ever stop? Will my mind ever rest? Will I be able to look at his pictures without wanting to die and be with him? Will I ever stop wondering his every moment up to his passing? His last thoughts? Did he feel any pain? Was he thinking about me when he saw it coming? I begged him that day not to get on that motorcycle, it was his friends, I lost my fiance in 1980 to a motorcycle accident and I just never felt safe around them, I always felt a bad omen... he only road it a few times, I thought "Oh he will get pulled over and the police will impound it becuase it isnt registered" he only road it up and down the street, I never thought he would get up on the freeway, Shoot, the bikes clutch was broken, he had to get off of it every time he had to stop and he would have to push it to get it into gear... The day of the accident his last words to me were "Mom, just because you had one bad experience doesnt mean you cant let me live my life!"... How I wish I wouldve sat on him and held him down, I went upstairs to my bedroom to get online with my friend from England, we were talking for a few hours when his friends ran into my room to tell me he was in an accident on the freeway, then I heard the words "MOM, HE'S DEAD!!!!!" I will never forget that, I heard myself screaming, "NO, NO, No, No,!!!!!!" I ran I was trying to get to my Baby, it was a horable nightmare, one that will be burned into my mind forever, I felt like I was running in slow motion.... The rest is a blur, I do remember a police officer grabbing me and not letting me go to my Son, I was hitting and kicking him, I just wanted to get to him... I didnt know where he was, I just knew he was on the freeway somewhere and I would have run a thousand miles to get to him.... I never got to see my Baby that night, I sat on the curb at the coroners office and waited for that white van to pull in, thinking "WAKE UP, THIS IS A NIGHTMARE, IT ISNT HAPPENING...WAKE UP" then I saw the van and I knew it was real... They wouldnt let me see him, I begged I pleaded, but the Deputy was a very kind man and he said he just couldnt let me see him... I had to wait until the next day to see him at the funeral home. Just thinking about it is so unreal, I saw him, unmade up, my family was with me, I had them take pictures, I dont ever want to forget him or what he went through or how he looked, people say that they want to remember how they were, Well, that was my reality, this is how he was, he wasnt smiling or making jokes or having fun, this was it!!! Im sorry, I had to get this all out, maybe someone can help me, I am so scared. I miss him so much and love him and it is killing me not to hear him come through that door every day and night running up the stairs, asking me to cook for him, or telling me goodnight and that he loves me.... Thank you for listening to me...

JOEY WAS A DEAR FRIEND TO ME.. I CHERISH EVERY MOMENT I HAD WITH HIM AND THOSE MEMORIES WILL FOREVER SAY IN MY HEART. JOEY WASN'T YOUR AVERAGE GUY. HE WAS A GREAT FRIEND, SON, BROTHER, AND MUCH MORE! HE WILL FOREVER BE REMEMBERED AS A GREAT PERSON WHO GAVE A HELPING HAND TO MANY, EVEN IF HE DIDN'T KNOW YOU. JOEY WAS SUCH A SWEET HEART AND HE WILL FOREVER BE MISSED. I HOPE EVERYONE WILL TAKE THIS ACCIDENT AND LEARN FROM IT, SOMETIMES JUST HAVING FUN COULD RUIN EVERYTHING. THATS ALL JOEY WAS TRYING TO DO WAS HAVE A FUN TIME LIKE ALWAYS WITH HIS FRIENDS. IT BREAKS MY HEART TO KNOW HE IS NO LONGER WITH US, BUT I KNOW HIS SPIRIT IS HERE AND HE IS WATCHING OVER ALL OF US! LOVE U BRO AND MISS U.. I HOPE YOUR FAMILY KNOWS THAT THEY ARE GREAT AND I WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR THEM.

I cry everyday that the world has been deprived of his presence. He had the sweetest disposition. I remember Joey and all his friends gathered at my house, building jumps for their bicycles in the back yard. I remember working with him on his summer school homework. I have so many memories of him as a sweet, mischievous, beautiful boy. I regret not seeing him in the last few years, wish I could undo that.
I am happy he played football, he wanted to so badly!
I am hurting for Tami, she loves her son so much, and the whole Scalise family. Joey was a beautiful child that made the world a better place.

i remember when joe first started going to the jr high. i saw him walking after lunch and went up to him and was like who are you.. i dnt recognize u.. are you new.. just asking him all kind of questions.

after that i asked if he wanted he could start hanging out with us.. and after that he did.

its been awhile now that him and i have hung out.. but i always remember him with that same hugh smile on his face.

he brought out the best in everyone and he is going to be missed soo much. everytime i hung out with joe it was always fun and always an adventure. if it werent for him i wouldnt know wat roof tag was. lol

but all i can say is i am just so happy i got to run into him the day of alhambra's graduation. to see him one last time. with his huge grin on his face and to give him that big hug i did.

i love you joey.

xoxo

shannon

 

I remember we took Joey to Lake tahoe on a vacation..he was probably in 4th grade..Dillon was in 5th grade..anyways we rented a speed boat to take a cruise around the lake. Dillon and Joey were engulfed with their orange life preservers...all you could see was their teeth smiling in the wind...we stopped the boat in the middle of the lake and asked joey if he would like to drive this thing...he didn't hesitate,,,tom stood behind him..Joey took the wheel and slammed down the throttle and took us all on the ride of our lifes! He was in his element! I have a picture of him and i will find it...the smile on his face lasted for days...you know Joey was so easy..he was the kindest boy i ever met, never complained...just effortless. We have such wonderful memories of him as a boy....he was my sons BF back then,,,I am sure he shines in Heaven!

This is a tribute to my Son whom I love and miss so much, My children are my everything... He was the first grandson and he was to carry on our family name. He was a friend to everyone. Homeless people, strangers, store clerks, people I have never met have come over to say that they are so sorry about Joe, that he in some way touched them, either with his kindness, his huge smile his helping someone. One homeless man sat out in front of our house after Joey passed, we had flowers and a candle lit, we needed the candle to stay lit for 7 days, he made sure, so for seven days he was out there, he also is American Indian and he did some chanting all night long, very low, but I heard him....My Son touched many people. I miss him more then I could ever relate to anyone, I love him to the depths of my soul and my sadness is unbearable. I just wish he was here with me so that I could hold him and tell him how much I love him. Thank you for coming to his site.